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Toilet training is a crucial moment in your child's development and that is why, when you see signs that your child is ready, you choose to remove the diaper, although it is not always easy and you find yourself facing problems that frustrate you and those that are not. you find a concrete solution.
One of them is the one that affects children who consciously retain urine for hours, even if they need to go to the bathroom. Therefore, from our site we offer you practical advice to solve this problem.
Holding back the urge to pee is not beneficial for your child for many reasons and as an adult you know it, however, your child does not know the risks of frequent urinary infections (the bladder is damaged if we do not go to the bathroom when we need to go) and sometimes it can even give you a fever, chills, stomach or headache.
Each child is different and it is difficult to simplify the problem, however, the most common reasons why they tend to retain the pee are the following:
- Fun before necessity: Many children concentrate a lot on the game and prefer to avoid going until they finish playing and sometimes they manage to delay going to the bathroom longer or even the desire to go away.
- The place is not the most suitable: Sometimes, there are children who are disgusted and do not want to go to a bathroom other than their own or the one they are used to.
- Afraid: You may not feel safe going to the bathroom by yourself or you have had an infection and it has caused you pain when you had to go to the bathroom and now you are afraid it will happen again.
- Lack of independence: If he is used to you asking him, perhaps he delegates that responsibility to you and hold on until you are the one who reminds him.
- Shame: If you are shy or have difficulty communicating, you may prefer to hold on than ask for help in front of others.
- He is not as prepared as you thought: You may have gone ahead to claim victory and he is still in the process of completely controlling his bowels and listening to the signals his body sends him. Controlling your bowels completely takes time.
If you know the causes that originate it and your child is easier to find a solution and help him to stop retaining the pee.
Explain to your child the symptoms that are associated: You may already start to feel the consequences of not going to the bathroom, but you may think that the bathroom has nothing to do with the pain, so getting informed is a great start. It does not consist of long explanations, just that you know that the longer you hold on, the more pain you will have and the only way to solve it is by going to the bathroom, sometimes leaning on books or simple illustrations of the human body helps them better understand something they cannot watch.
Suggest a routine: Incorporate going to the bathroom as one more habit in your daily routines, if possible at times when you know that you usually go to the bathroom more, such as after breakfast, lunch or dinner. It is impossible to anticipate every moment, but you can anticipate many of them.
Ask more statements and fewer questions: If your child does not go to the bathroom because he is entertained, afraid or ashamed, you know that when you ask him it is very possible that he will refuse to go to the bathroom, even though you are seeing that he is restless and moves more, so avoid a Conflict by asking if you know the answer and choose to tell him in a loving but firm tone to walk you to the bathroom. In fact, the only question you can ask her is does she want to go to the bathroom with me alone?
Don't force him or make him feel bad: Sometimes we think that if we pressure him to go even if he does not feel like it or we "bug" him, we will make it a stimulus for him and stop doing it, however depending on the child it can sink him even more and exacerbate the problem.
Leaks should not be a cause for discussion: Children and adults tend to learn by trial and error, so if he has peed himself, instead of scolding him or reproaching him for what he has done, ask him to stop what he is doing at that moment and to clean or change with your help, but do not do it yourself so that he is aware of the process and also begins to understand the importance of going to the bathroom.
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