It is very common to see that in schools children are directed among equals through nicknames or nicknames. These are 'nicknames' that children use to refer to others, focusing on a particular characteristic. Thus, we have ever been able to hear nicknames such as: fat, midget, nerd, glasses, etc.
Nicknames begin to appear without any offensive intention from the age of 4, but they begin to annoy those who receive them. And as parents we wonder how we can teaching children to defend themselves from the harm caused by nicknames given to them at school?
Nicknames are usually based on labels about the physical appearance of the child, his race, his social class, his abilities, etc. Statistics show that among children ages 6 to 13, 90% of them are victims of insults by their peers. It will be especially at the beginning of the year when relationships begin to form, where nicknames will appear and with them the search for social status in the new environment.
The use of this type of nickname among students is recognized as a form of aggression and bullying, which the whole environment plays down. The school itself as an institution and the teachers do not realize the psychological and moral damage that the affected person receives.
The qualifying adjectives that children and even teachers use to refer to others such as: handsome, giraffe, lazy, the machine, etc. They end up being their nicknames. Also if they are used frequently over a long period of time, children who suffer from it end up assuming that they are like this. They are labeled.
There are 2 types of nicknames:
These kinds of nicknames censor the child, contributing to low self-esteem.
This type of nickname greatly exaggerates some aspect or ability of the child. This can affect the child a lot, as there will be times when the little one cannot live up to what is said about him.
The use of nicknames can bring with it some consequences that affect the day-to-day life of the children who suffer them. Among them we can see:
- Behavior conditioning
Nicknames can influence the brain's nerve connections on a biological level, conditioning the way they act.
- Delays in development
The use of nicknames is considered bullying and children are the most likely to suffer it. It has been found that when this happens, the little ones have a maturation delay. This in turn makes them look weaker than the rest of their peers and consequently their emotional development suffers.
- The self-esteem
Nicknames can generate identity problems in children, especially when they are discriminatory, offensive or degrading. The child unconsciously adopts a lifestyle with feelings of inferiority, which makes his self-esteem low.
We are going to expose two fronts in the fight against nicknames. In the first line will be the children themselves.
The damage that the nickname can cause will be greater if the child himself cannot defend himself. Thus, the best way to prevent children from falling victim to nicknames will be important for them to learn this series of keys:
1. To be tolerant with the rest.
2. To know say no' to be able to mark their own limits with others.
3. To know how to express their own feelings.
4. A Be respectful with others, to later be able to demand it.
5. To realize that all people are equally important. There is no one above or below the others.
Then there will be a second line formed by the adults around the child, which will not be less important to 'battle' against the nicknames. These are the parents, relatives, and teachers.
6. They should do the child feels heard and understood by the environment.
7. Do not use nicknames to address each other within the family.
8. Teach the child to be assertive, and with it to empathize with others.
9. Teach him to manage his emotions.
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