I have always had the position that talking about breastfeeding is synonymous with life, with benefits, without a doubt, because it is the best food for our children, but will everything certainly be so pink? There are women who feel a sense of anguish at the moment of feeding their little one with their own milk or who are looking forward to that moment ending; nursing mothers who refuse or refuse to breastfeed the baby. Does it happen to you or do you know any case? It has a name: breastfeeding agitation.
I want to comment on the case of Fabiana and how she suffered at the beginning of breastfeeding. The pain in her nipples was unbearable, because she had many cracks and for her that moment of putting her son to her breast was a suffering.
I remember her mother telling her: 'Be calm, this is at the beginning, you will see that as you progress in breastfeeding, you will have already overcome everything, many women suffer what you do!' Are breastfeeding problems only at the beginning? What happens when breastfeeding is more advanced and there are situations that cause us concern?
During breastfeeding many changes, both physical and emotional, are experienced not only in the baby but also in the mother. Without a doubt, the connection that exists between mother and baby is inexplicable, unique and wonderful, but sometimes, the opposite happens, and what is called as the agitation of breastfeeding, a process that I believe should be as well known as the benefits of breastfeeding, and although it is rare, it is important to know how to deal with it.
The agitation of breastfeeding is nothing more than a moment of anguish or uncertainty that a mother may experience towards her child at the time of breastfeeding, even going so far as to reject it and refuse to breastfeed. It is a natural, visceral process that, although infrequent, is usually very uncomfortable for the mother who experiences it, especially because she feels guilty for something that goes against her will, rejecting the being she loves the most in life.
It is currently not entirely clear why it occurs, but believed to be due to hormonal changes experienced by women during breastfeeding and their increased sensitivity in the nipples. Another reason why it is believed to happen is the extreme fatigue that the mother experiences during the motherhood stage: the fact of having bad nights, sleeping at a different time than she is used to, overcoming the baby's growth crises. ..
But does it happen in all women? No, the agitation of breastfeeding usually occurs generally in mothers who breastfeed in tandem, breastfeeding in children older than 2 years (misnamed prolonged breastfeeding) and in women who breastfeed during pregnancy.
Mothers who experience it refer to it as a 'tingling', 'discomfort' or 'an aversion' sensation that leads them to involuntarily reject their child. 'An urgent need to separate their children from the breast', they even refer to 'not supporting the baby to suckle', 'a desire to run away when the child seeks to suckle'. There are also cases of mothers who refer to it as 'sensations of pleasure that they experience when sucking their child that they do not want to feel'.
Probably, if you are going through these circumstances, he is considering what to do to be able to overcome it and get out of this pothole. Here are some tips that can help you: What can you do to overcome it?
- First, you should know that it is a normal and natural situation, that any woman can experience it, and that it goes against your will, so do not think that you are a bad mother or that you do not love your child.
- Try to stay calm and seek help, if possible with a breastfeeding professional, who will fully understand what you are going through and will guide you through this process. In addition, you will get rid of feeling guilty, this is important, because many times if you discuss it with a family member or friend and they do not know that this is a natural process, they will not understand what happens to you.
- The moment it happens to you, try, for example, to look for some kind of distraction So that the burden disappears: How about reading a book?
- Another thing I recommend you do is change position breastfeeding is often the solution to your problem.
- Try to identify which take or at what point in the shot do you experience it, so you can shorten it or skip that shot.
Anyway, know that agitation in breastfeeding is completely natural. It's not you, you don't do it voluntarily, so don't feel guilty. You are an excellent mother for the mere fact of having given life!
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